Why Over-Indexing On The Wrong Metrics Ruins Your Life

Hey friends,

It's been a while since my last newsletter, but I’m excited to say we’re back and hopefully for good this time! I’ve settled into the new house and I'm writing to you from my new armchair in the living room, with some movie soundtracks playing in the background (think Interstellar vibes). There's an iced coffee by my side and the sun is doing its best (you know how it is in the UK), and life feels pretty great.

I’ve had some big changes recently — I’ve switched to a full-time health tech role, got married, and bought a house. These were huge milestones, and I thought they’d bring a huge wave of happiness and a sense of being “complete.” But honestly, while I’m happier than I’ve ever been, it’s not really about hitting those milestones or ticking boxes.

Here’s what I thought would make me happy:

• Being married
• Owning a house
• Working in health-tech

And here’s what actually does the trick:

• Spending quality time with my wife
• Making unforgettable memories in our new house
• Enjoying a better work-life balance

We often think success and happiness come from big achievements or possessions. Like, owning a house means you’re more successful or have your life more sorted than others. But that’s not necessarily true. You can have all the "right" things on paper and still feel off inside.

What I’ve found is that happiness comes back to the simple, everyday moments. It’s about enjoying a good cup of coffee, taking a walk in nature, getting a good night’s sleep, or just hanging out with loved ones. It’s not about how much money you have, the stuff you own, or the titles you carry. All that stuff doesn't really matter in the grand scheme.

While there’s a thought out there that money can buy happiness by removing some of life's hassles — like outsourcing chores to free up your time — I think that’s only partly true. Life would be pretty dull if you outsourced every little thing. Doing your own gardening, cooking your meals — that’s the stuff that keeps you feeling grounded and truly alive.

So, that's where I'm at these days. Finding joy in the small things and realising they're actually the big things. I hope you're all finding your little bits of happiness too or this acts as a reminder to focus on the metrics that truly matter.

Quote 🧠

“He who has a why to live can bear almost any how.” — Friedrich Nietzsche

As always be safe, and be happy.

Warm regards - Yath 🤟🏾

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