Finding Your Values and Aligning Your Goals
Dear friends,
I've come to realise that in the midst of our busy lives, it's easy to lose sight of who we really are and what truly matters to us. As a junior doctor, I can attest to the fact that it's all too easy to get caught up in the rat race to achieve more, to do more, and to progress through the training ranks. But through my own journey of self-growth and introspection, I've learned the importance of self-discovery and aligning my goals with my values. Sadly, this has meant that my values/goals do not align with those tolerated by trainees in the NHS, but that’s a topic for another day.
Embracing the journey of self-discovery is all about figuring out who we are, what we stand for, and what we truly want in life. It's a lifelong journey that requires us to be open, honest, and sometimes even vulnerable with ourselves. For example, I’ve had to be honest with myself that perhaps my skills are better utilised (and definitely better rewarded) in careers outside of clinical medicine. The values of an underpaid, overworked NHS doctor is not something I can condone for much longer. When we take the time to really dive into who we are and what we care about, we gain a sense of clarity and direction. This, in turn, helps us make better decisions and set goals that truly resonate with our inner selves.
So, how do we make sure our goals align with our values? Well, first, it’s important to think about what our values are. What principles guide our decisions? What qualities do we admire in others? Next, it’s important to take a look at our current goals. Are they in sync with our values, or are we chasing them because of external pressures or expectations? Be honest with yourself here. It's important to recognise when we might be pursuing something for the wrong reasons.
After this, it's paramount we adjust our goals or set new ones that truly align with our values. Remember, it's okay to change direction at any time and several times. My values have definitely changed over the past 5 years. For example, in medical school, I was dead set on becoming an ENT surgeon. I valued the craft and the difference you could make to another human through operating. However, now I value my time and quality of life more than pursuing the satisfaction of being a surgeon, where I would be sacrificing both.
Life is a journey, after all. As we set new goals, we should be specific and intentional about what we want to achieve and why. This will help us stay focused and committed to living a life that reflects our authentic selves. It's not always easy, but trust me, the fulfilment and happiness that comes from pivoting and pursuing an authentic life is probably worth it in the long-term. I definitely feel more content with my new direction and goals in life, as I feel I am more likely to achieve my goal of time freedom.
After all, a life that reflects our authentic selves is the key to true happiness.
Quote 🧠
You cannot swim for new horizons until you have courage to lose sight of the shore.
— William Faulkner
Link Up 🔗
Podcast — Really enjoyed this episode between Ali Abdaal and Mark Tilbury. Mark is of an older generation and speaks of the importance of building a strong foundation in your 20s to unlock “generational wealth” for your family.
Sleep Cycle — I’ve been using this app to improve my sleep. It’ll play white noise until you fall asleep and then wake you up at the optimal time in your sleep cycle, such that you wake up feeling refreshed rather than groggy.
Govee Floor Lamp — After visiting Copenhagen, I have invested in creating a Hygge environment at home. This lamp is pretty sick, it provides a nice ambient vibe and has a million different modes and moods. It also syncs with music.
As always be safe, and be happy.
Warm regards - Yath 🤟🏾
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